It’s that time of year again. The resolutions are flying, and everyone’s proudly declaring what they’re giving up: sugar, gluten, alcohol, carbs, or (heaven forbid) coffee. While all these sacrifices sound admirable (and maybe a little torturous), I can’t help but wonder: Why is no one talking about giving up the things that really weigh them down?
I’m not talking about what’s on your plate—I’m talking about what’s in your mind, your heart, and your soul. The thoughts, relationships, and habits that don’t serve you. The things that quietly (or loudly) sap your energy and steal your joy. You can’t step into a state of ease, grace, and true joy when the clutter of negativity is holding you back. So, instead of clearing out your pantry, how about clearing out your life?
Start Here: What No Longer Serves You?
Let’s get real. Who or what is sucking the life out of you?
• The toxic friend who leaves you drained after every conversation.
• The inner critic that won’t stop whispering that you’re not good enough.
• The constant overcommitting to things you don’t even care about.
Why do we hold onto these things? Because they’re familiar? Because we’re afraid of what life will look like without them? Because we don’t think we deserve better?
This is where my father, Howard, would say —wise beyond his years (all 96 of them), and a man who mastered the art of not letting life get to him, “How long are you going to wait?”
Even in his 90s, my dad was the epitome of calm. Sure, there were exceptions—like when my mom passed or the time one out-of-touch CNA at his care facility took away his OJ before he finished it (he loved his juice) and he uttered a quote that has now become famous in our home: “Bitch stole my juice!” But aside from those rare moments, he lived in a state of peace and acceptance.
He didn’t let anything or anyone bother him. Not people. Not his inability to walk. Not the endless list of “what ifs” that plague so many of us.
So, how long are you going to wait to let go of the people, thoughts, and habits that drag you down? How long are you going to wait to say no to things that sap your energy and yes to the things that fill you?
If you’re still holding onto that toxic relationship, that nagging insecurity, or that relentless guilt, ask yourself:
How much is this costing me?
What could I gain if I let it go?
Am I willing to trade my peace of mind for it?
Who would I be without it?
In the words of Howie, “How long are you going to wait?”